Dec 28, 2008

What is in Mama-Miya's handbag?

After Miya, I only have 1 handbag. White ZARA bag approx. size 40cm x 25cm. It's huge & look almost like a weekend bag. it looks a bit like the one in the picture, but instead of gold, mine are more of stainless steel.

What's in it? What's in it, would be stuff that a mom should have. They are:

1) 2ocm x 15cm ziploc bag filled with important medicine & basic drugs like panadol, synflex, imodium, re-hydration salt, tube of heat cream, hot patch, oral aide, eye mo, homeopathy meds (fenugreek capsules, HPA lady capsules for moms), pramilet (multivitamins for moms) and etc.

2) 17cm x 22cm ziploc bag filled with 3 disposable diapers, baby wet wipes, cottonballs, tissues, hand sanitizer, bosistos oil(rub oil helps with wind in tummy) & baby powder.

3) 17cm x 22cm ziploc bag filled a change of baby clothes, small baby towel, bib & spare bingkie.

4) My GUESS wallet (IC, Marriage ID, expired driving license, in case of emergency card, credit card & hopefully some cash. My ATM card with hubby)

5) My PDA

6) Coin purse contais loose change, paper clips & small brooches.

7) 2packet of green tea bags, pair of chopstick, spoon & menthos.

8) small mirror, lippy, mascara, eyeliner & small tube of moisturiser.

9) 2handphones (1 family number-i get to call mama for free, 1 misc number-dulu its just for work, but now dah jd utk semua benda)

10) miya's toy- rattle orange & green monkey, buntat si hamster gemuk, mini bantal busuk miya a 3cm x 15cm bantal made of kain satin & yellow rubber duckie.

11) Digital Camera- to catch all "new" moments miya created. Yup we bought the camera when i was 8month pregnant, for the sole purpose to catch important moments of miya's development.

12) mini torch light with mini screw driver

13) pen, pencil, highlighter & 2 post-it-notes pad (pink & yellow)

and finally

14) a small foldable recycled-environmental-friendly- shopping- bag.

Kalau letak kunci kereta dlm bag tu, sure la lama sungguh nak carinya..

With all of these stuff swarming at the bottom of my bag, i feel i am at the urgent need of a compartment organizer. was thinking of getting something like the one in the picture.
Any moms out there care to share your tips on how to keep you handbag organized?

Children Live what they learn?

So, what is the role of parents in nurturing each child's personality?

  • First, recognize that each child has a unique personality. Getting to know your infant and how she or he approaches the world is the most important parenting obligation.
  • How you parent should match your baby's personality. Parenting techniques should vary from child to child.

  • Create special experiences designed with your baby's personality in mind. For example, if your baby is shy, create "exploration" times to challenge her. If your baby is aggressive, set clear limits for acceptable behavior. If your baby is fearful, help him find coping methods (a favorite toy or a special song) that work for the both of you.

  • Try to be flexible as your child develops. People don't fit easily into any one category - particularly across a lifetime. Your child's personality will continue to develop and that may change your relationship with him or her.

  • A child's primary source of support and guidance - no matter what personality emerges - comes from the adults on whom he or she depends. Strive to be consistent and stable, in addition to flexible.

(the pic is me at 3) When I was 16 or 17, I came across this poem. Written by a wise person, I presume. A wise person that is sensible enough to hear, see, and think with her heart. I have learned a great understanding from this poem. The knowledge for me to ponder… and also as a reminder to myself of what kind of mother should I be in the future.

Children Learn What They Live
By Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D.

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn violence.

If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule,
they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.

If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, th
ey learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.

If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is
good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.

If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and i
n those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn
the world is a nice place in which to live.

However, if a person can think better and not follow blindly of what they have learnt, I believe the world will be a different place from what it is already now. Ideologically, there is nothing good or bad. Philosophically, there is nothing that is 100% correct or 100% wrong. However, thinking just makes it so. And so… then again...... is thinking GOOD or BAD?

(this pic is the infant papa-miya)

Meaty Matters-Animal Protein-To Intro or Not To Intro?

Miya is almost 8mo i guess its time to intro meat into her diet.


1) Beef & red meaty best intro to infants between 8-10months
2) Chicken, Turkey & those birdy creatures best intro to infant between 8-10months
3) Fish & Seafood, highly allergenic stuff best intro between 10-12months

Baby Led Weaning-Huk Aloh, nate bewok gapo ni?

Baby-led weaning (often also referred to as BLW) is a method of gradually weaning a baby from a milk diet onto solid foods. It allows a baby to control his or her solid food intake by self-feeding from the very beginning of the weaning process.

Infants are offered a range of foods to provide a balanced diet from around 6 months. They often begin by picking up and licking the food, before progressing to eating. Babies typically begin self feeding around 6 months, although some will reach for food as early as 5 months and some will wait until 7 or 8. The intention of this process is that it is tailored to suit each particular baby and their personal development. The 6 month guideline provided by the World Health Organisation is based on research indicating the internal digestive system matures over the period 4-6 months. It seems reasonable to posit that the gut matures in tandem with the baby's external faculties to self feed.

Initial self-feeding attempts often result in very little food ingested as the baby explores textures and tastes, but the baby will soon start to swallow anddigest what is offered. Breastfeeding is continued in conjunction with weaning and milk is always offered before solids in the first 12 months.

Anak tak nak makan ikut sukatan recommended by experts? How?

These few days, i had a tough time trying to make sure miya finish her food. Dia makan hanya bila dia lapar & berenti bila dah kenyang. Tak macam dulu, where she will eat until licin. So it got me worried.

1001 worries la..takut that she is not getting enought nutri & calories. takut she won't gain weight. Takut she won't grow smart.

As usual, bila hati ku resah, akan ku google info regarding this. then i jumpa an article by Caroline Rea, RN, BS, MSfrom

it goes:

"The division of responsibility is a way of feeding your child that takes the battle out of meal times.

  • From birth until your child is between 6 months and 1 year old, you are responsible for what your child eats, and your child is responsible for how much and how often he or she eats. (Infants are fed on demand.)
  • As your child starts eating solid foods, you become responsible for what, when, and where your child eats, and your child is responsible for how much is eaten, and even whether he or she eats.
How you and your child decide on food
Child's age Your responsibility Your child's responsibility
0 to 6–12 months


How much

When (how often)

1 year and older


When (how often)


How much


Infants are born with an internal hunger gauge that tells them when they're hungry and when they're full. When we try to control how much children eat, we interfere with this natural ability. Sticking to the division of responsibility helps your child stay in touch with those internal cues.

Responsibility changes as your child grows. By the time your child is about 1 year of age, you become responsible for when your child eats by providing routine meals and snacks. You also decide where your child eats, ideally at home, at a table for as many family meals as possible. Doing this lays a foundation for the decisions your child will make when he or she has more freedom to decide what, where, and when to eat.

It helps for you to be a good role model—your own eating and lifestyle choices are a powerful teaching tool. Your child sees the choices you make and follows your example."

So its ok to let miya decide on how much she wants to eat, as long as i prep the best food for her. But at age 1 above, i have to make sure she eats & finish the food yg i prep accoridng to the time & portion.

So mommies out there, jgn la risau pasal anak2 u yg below 1yrs old tak makan byk ye?

Dec 27, 2008

Healthy Diet For Infant below 12months

What is a healthy diet for infants from birth to twelve months?

  • A healthy diet for babies from birth to twelve months is one that helps infants stay healthy and grow well. During this time, babies learn to eat the kinds of food that will keep them healthy in the future. This is also a time when babies learn how to use eating utensils and cups. Feeding time is special time for parents and babies to get to know each other.

  • It is important that your baby gets the right kinds and amounts of food. Your baby will grow more quickly during the first year of life than at any other time. Your baby should gain about one ounce every day for the first six months. After that, he should gain about half an ounce every day until he is one year old.

What foods should I avoid feeding my baby from birth to twelve months?

  • Do not give your baby regular cow's milk, goat's milk, or evaporated milk until he is one year old. These types of milk do not have as much iron as your baby needs, and are harder for your baby to digest.

  • Do not give your baby low-iron formula unless your caregiver tells you to. This formula can cause your baby to have low iron in his blood. Your baby needs iron in his diet in order to grow well.

  • Do not give your baby fruit juice, soda, fruit drinks, tea, or any liquid other than breast milk or formula in a bottle. When your baby is ready to learn to drink from a cup, a small amount of fruit juice is okay. Other liquids such as soda, fruit drinks, and tea do not have enough nutrients to help your baby grow. Giving your baby sweet liquids in a bottle may also cause him to get cavities.

  • Do not give your baby milk that has not been pasteurized (pas-ter-EYE-zd). Pasteurized milk is best because it has been processed to kill germs.

  • Do not give your baby raw eggs, honey, or corn syrup. These foods contain germs that can make your baby sick.

  • Do not add baby cereal or other foods to your baby's bottle unless your caregiver tells you to. Adding cereal or other food to formula or breast milk may cause your baby to drink less formula or breast milk. It may also cause him to choke, or to gain weight too fast.

  • Do not give your baby foods that are hard for him to chew because they may cause him to choke. This includes hot dogs, grapes, raw fruits and vegetables, raisins, seeds, popcorn, and sticky foods such as peanut butter.

  • Do not offer your baby water in a bottle. Offering plain water may keep your baby from getting as much formula as he needs. Your baby will get plenty of liquid by drinking breast milk or formula. Babies usually do not need extra liquids, but may need them in hot weather, or if they have diarrhea (loose, watery stools). Ask your caregiver about the amount and type of liquids that are best to give to your baby.

  • Do not add salt or sugar to your baby's foods to make them taste better. Your baby does not prefer to have foods that are salty or sweet because all flavors are new to him.

What can my baby eat from birth to twelve months?

Birth to four months: Breast milk or formula is the only thing your baby needs to be healthy.

  • Breast milk: Breast milk is the best food for your baby. It has the best nutrition and helps to keep your baby from getting sick. Ask your caregiver for information about the other benefits of breast feeding.

    • You should breast feed your baby when he acts hungry. You will be able to tell if your baby is crying because he is hungry or for another reason. Your baby will usually want to eat every two to three hours when he is first born. Your baby does not need to be fed on a strict schedule because every baby is different. Your baby will need about eight to twelve feedings every 24 hours. If he sleeps for more than four hours at one time, wake him up to eat. Babies should breast feed for about 10 to 20 minutes or longer, on each breast. As your baby gets older, he will go longer between feedings. There may be times when he breast feeds more or less often than usual. Ask your caregiver for more information about breast feeding.

  • Formula: If breast feeding does not work for you, you may give your baby infant formula from a bottle. There are many different kinds of formulas that are healthy for your baby. You can buy formulas that are "ready-to-feed" and do not need any mixing. Other formulas may be in a concentrated liquid or powder form, and need water added to them. Be sure to follow the directions when mixing the formula so that your baby gets the right amount. Until your baby is four months old, it is best to boil water for one to two minutes before mixing it with formula so that your baby does not get sick.

    • Cow's milk formula: These formulas are made from cow's milk that has been changed so that it is safe for babies. Do not give your baby regular cow's milk. Vitamins and minerals are added to make sure babies get all the nutrients they need. Most babies can drink cow's milk formulas without a problem. Some babies cannot digest (break down) the protein in cow's milk. Because of this they may develop a rash, throw up, or have diarrhea.

    • Soy milk formula: Parents who want their baby to have a vegetarian (made from a plant source) formula may choose soy formula. This formula may also be given to babies who cannot digest cow's milk. Vitamins and minerals are added to the soy milk formula to make sure babies get the nutrients they need. Babies who have a reaction to the protein in cow's milk formula may also have a reaction to the protein in soy milk formula. Soy milk formulas may not be a good choice for babies that are premature (born early), or have trouble growing.

    • Other special formulas: Babies who have a reaction to the protein in cow's milk formula or soy formula can usually drink these formulas. The fat in these formulas is also easier to digest for some babies. Babies sometimes have a hard time learning to like the taste of these special formulas. They may also cost more money.

    • Feeding your baby: Your baby will want to eat every two to four hours. Feed your baby each time he lets you know he is hungry. At first, your baby will want only two to three ounces every few hours. He will slowly start to drink more formula and may want to eat less often. He may drink up to six or eight ounces every three or four hours, as he gets older. When he has a growth spurt, he will be hungry more often and may want to eat more often. Burping your baby in the middle of his feeding may help him to spit up less.

Four to six months:

  • Continue to breast feed your baby or feed him formula from a bottle. He may only want to breast feed or bottle feed every four to five hours. He may drink 30 to 40 ounces of breast milk or formula in an entire day.

  • Ask your caregiver about starting to give your baby solid foods from a spoon. At this age, you may begin giving your baby iron-fortified infant cereal two or three times each day. You may mix cereal with breast milk or formula. Avoid mixing cereal with other flavors such as juice or fruit. At first, your baby will not seem to know how to eat. Offer him one to three teaspoons of infant cereal at one feeding. Have your baby sit in a high chair to eat solid foods.

Six to nine months:

  • Continue to feed your baby breast milk or formula from a bottle four to five times each day, and infant cereal from a spoon three times each day. As your baby starts to eat solid foods, he may not want as much breast milk or formula as he did before. He may take 24 to 32 ounces of breast milk or formula each day.

  • Your baby is probably ready to start eating other types of foods such as strained fruits, vegetables, or meats, along with infant cereal. Your baby can eat cooked egg yolks, but should not be given egg whites because they are too hard to digest at this age.

  • The best time to give your baby a new food is when he is most hungry, such as in the morning. Give your baby only one new food each week to see how he handles the new food. Avoid giving your baby several different foods at the same time. If your baby has a reaction to a food, it will be hard to know which food caused the reaction. Avoid giving your baby fruit desserts because they have empty calories.

  • When your baby is able to use his fingers to pick up objects, he will learn to pick up foods and put them in his mouth. He will be want to try this when he sees you putting food in your mouth at meal times. Your baby may also be ready to learn to hold a cup and try to drink one or two ounces of fruit juice from it. A small amount of juice may be given to your child but is not needed for a healthy diet.

Nine to twelve months:

  • As your baby eats more solid food, he may only breast feed or take a bottle three or four times a day. He will be interested in eating solid foods in his high chair each time he sees you and other people in the family eat meals. Your baby may eat as much as six to nine tablespoons of soft foods and finger foods, four or five times each day. As more teeth come in, he will be able to chew soft foods. Some examples of soft foods are cooked vegetables, soft fresh fruits, breads, noodles, cheese, and soft meats.

What other diet guidelines should I know when feeding my baby?

  • Avoid propping your baby's bottle and letting him eat while you are doing other things. Hold your baby in your arms with his head higher than his body when you feed him. Never feed your baby while you are riding in a car or other moving vehicle. Your baby could choke while you are not watching. Being with your baby and holding him helps both of you bond with each other.

  • Do not put your baby to bed with a bottle. The liquids that sit in his mouth while he is sleeping may cause cavities.

  • Heating your baby's milk or food in the microwave can be dangerous. The food may not heat evenly and have spots that are very hot. Your baby's face or mouth can be burned this way. Warm milk or baby foods by placing it in it's container, in a pot of warm water. If you need to warm food quickly, leave it in the microwave for only a few seconds, on a low setting. Shake or stir the food very well and check to make sure the food is not too hot before giving it to your baby.

  • When your baby lets you know he is done eating, never try to get him to eat a little more. Your baby knows when he has had enough to eat. Your baby will show you that he has had enough to eat by looking around at other things instead of watching you feed him. He may chew on the nipple rather than suck on it. He may also cry to get out of the high chair. Trying to get him to eat more than he needs may teach him to overeat. It may also cause him to gain weight too fast.

  • Some babies who are only being fed breast milk may need vitamin D supplements after two months of age. Talk with your caregiver about whether your baby needs vitamin D supplements.

Risks: Not feeding your baby enough foods or the right kinds of food can keep your baby from growing well, or make him very sick. Certain foods should not be offered to babies because babies may choke on them. Talk to your caregiver if you feel that your baby is not eating enough.

Dec 26, 2008

Dr article on ROSEOLA


Related concepts:
Exanthem subitum, Human herpesvirus 6, HHV-6, Sixth disease

After several nights of watching their toddler with a fever, the parents notice a red rash covering his body. Is this a sign of trouble? Or is it good news?

What is it?
Roseola is a mild viral illness with a fever followed by a rash. Before the 20th century, children with roseola were lumped in with those with measles or rubella or scarlet fever. It wasn't until 1913 that this specific syndrome was recognized, distinguishing from the others as a benign, self-limited disease occurring almost exclusively in young children.

It is caused by human herpesvirus 6 (HHV-6) or occasionally by human herpesvirus 7 (HHV-7). While the disease has been recognized for almost century, HHV-6 was discovered only in 1986, and HHV-7, in 1990. Roseola is also called roseola infantum (because it occurs mostly in infants), exanthem subitum (meaning “sudden rash”), and sixth disease (because it was the sixth of the similar childhood rash infections to be described). It is one of the classic childhood exanthems.

Who gets it?
Almost all cases of roseola occur in children before their third birthdays. The peak age is between 6 and 15 months. Healthy babies are born with protective antibodies from their mothers, but these begin to disappear when the baby is 4 to 6 months old. By 15 months, most babies have protective antibodies that they have made themselves. These will last a lifetime.

Fewer than half of children ever get roseola. Nevertheless, almost all children have had HHV-6 infections by age 3. For the majority, who never get the rash, the HHV-6 infection usually causes a fever, perhaps with other symptoms. It is a common cause of baby’s first fever. HHV-7 follows a similar pattern, but the time sequence is more spread out; most children have become infected before middle school.

What are the symptoms?
Classic roseola features a high fever (average 103°F) that lasts for 3 to 5 days (worse at night). Most children behave normally, even with the high fevers. In most, the fever ends abruptly, although it can disappear slowly over a day or so. A rash appears within hours of the fever subsiding. The rash is rose-colored, as the name roseola suggests. The rash may be present on the upper arms, legs, and face, but is most prominent on the neck and trunk, where it usually begins. It consists of numerous, small (2- to 5-mm), slightly raised spots that blanch when pressed. The rash does not itch and does not cause blisters. The rash typically lasts for 24 to 48 hours. Sometimes the spots coalesce before the rash disappears. In some children, the rash may be fleeting—gone in minutes or hours.

The most common complication is seizures at the beginning of the high fever in a small number of children. These febrile seizures are scary to parents but are benign.

Is it contagious?
Once people have been infected with HHV-6 or HHV-7, the virus typically stays in their bodies for the rest of their lives. Antibodies prevent them from getting sick again themselves, but they can infect others. Most infected adults have the viruses in their saliva. Children typical get roseola from close exposure to caregivers who are themselves well—not from being around sick children or adults. Once exposed, the incubation period is 5 to 15 days.

How is it diagnosed?
Roseola is usually diagnosed based on a classic history and physical exam. During the days of fever, before the rash appears, lab work may be needed to rule out other problems. Once the rash has appeared, the diagnosis is usually clear. Sometimes it is confused with rubella, measles, scarlet fever, fifth disease, or drug reactions (especially if children have been started on an antibiotic during the fever).

How is it treated?
Antibiotics do not help. No treatment is needed in otherwise healthy children, except perhaps for acetaminophen or ibuprofen to lower the fever or increase comfort. Antiviral agents are available for those rare children who need them.

How can it be prevented?
There is no clear way to prevent roseola. There is no reason to exclude children with the roseola rash from daycare.

Related A-to-Z Information:
Exanthems (Childhood rash), Fifth Disease, Human Herpesvirus, Measles, Rubella (German measles), Scarlet Fever
Alan Greene MD FAAP

Dr. Lisa Gwynn: What is Roseola?


Dec 23, 2008

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Dec 22, 2008

How the flu vaccine works

Infant Flu Study

Weaning Food Guide-How MUCH & WHEN

whatever we prep utk anak, jgn lupa to make sure its within proper sukatan makanan & penuh dgn zat yg mencukupi.

utk anak 6-7mo:

1)dia perlu minum susu of at least 5-6oz= 4kali sehari
2) dlm makanan dia ade:
- 1-3sudu besar grains carbo (rice, oats or potato)=2kali sehari
- 2-3 sudu besar sayur =2 kali sehari
- fruit juice 2oz atau 2-3sudu besar= 2kali sehari
- meat or meat alternative (mashed peas/tofu/beans)=1-2sudu besar.

*at this age its is best not to intro animal protein into the childs diet as it may cause allergies!!

so cam miya, i bg makan 3kali sehari

breakfast at 7.30am 1sudu oats, 2 sudu fruit puree
lunch 12noon 1 sudu oat/potato/pasta/rice, 2 sudu vege
dinner at 6pm 2sudu oats/rice, with tofu/beans/fruit juice

utk anak 8-9mo pulak..most of sukatan tu increase tambah lg 2-3sudu of each type of food sehari & susu bg 6-9oz 3kali sehari

utk anak 9-10mo pulak..any sukatan for the 8-9mo tu, increase 2-3sudu lg & sukatan susu 9oz 3kali sehari

utk anak yg dah setahun and above:
1)grains carbo- 4tbspoon 3kali sehari
2) susu 9oz 3kali sehari
3) vege 3-4sudu besar 3kali sehari
4) buah 3-4 sudu besar 2 kali sehari /juice 5oz 2kali sehari
5)meat or meat alternative 1-2 sudu 2kali sehari.

kalau kita amalkan sukatan makanan ni, akan kita takkan under eat or over eat. insyaallah anak akan dpt all nutri it needs from the food & the EBM

Dec 19, 2008

Newborn baby- how to get gas out

No Cry Sleep Solution

Solving a Baby Sleep Problem

Dec 17, 2008

A is for Allah by Yusuf Islam (Cat Stevens)

Dec 16, 2008

Establishing Solid- Miya's menu for this week

After about a month plus on semi-solid, it is time for Miya to start establishing the solid food intake. so what did mama cook for her this week:

Sweet Dish- Japanese Silk Tofu with Pureed Dates


-japanese silk tofu (block or cilinder)
-10 bijik kurma
- 1/2 cup hot water

- rendam kurma dlm air panas for 5mins
- pureekan kurma dgn air rendaman dlm blender
- tuang kurma puree tu dlm individual tubs dlm 1/3 of the bekas
- lay cut tofu on top of the puree
- close tub & simpan dlm fridge

*it is best to simpan dlm fridge and not freezer coz dlm freezer tofu tu akan pecah air.
*this dish can last for 3-4days at normal fridge temperature & over 2 weeks dlm freezer.
*to serve-
masuk dlm microwave for 40sec-1min.

Savory Dish- Pasta Soup with Yellow Squash & Carrots

-1 bijik medium size yellow squash/yellow zucchini (kupas kulit & potong diced- size kuib 1-2cm)
-1 bijik medium size carrot (grate halus)
- 3bijik garlic (hiris nipis)
- oil utk tumis
- 3cups of water
- 5-7btg spageti pasta (dipatah2 1-2cm long sebelum masak)

-tumis bwg putih hingga naik bau wangi
-masuk air
-when air mula mendidih, masukkan spageti pasta dan biarkan selama 10mins
- masukkan semua yellow squash dah biarkan selama 10mins
- masukkan grated carrots dah biarkan selama 5mins.
- rasa semua bahan2 dlm soup tu & pastikan semua dah empuk, baru matikan api.
- tub in individual serving & freezer.

*to serve-masuk dlm microwave for 1-2min. tuang dlm mangkuk & lenyek skit pakai fork.


IMPORTANT-Child Sleep Issues

What really matters-Baby Brain Box!!

Dec 11, 2008


I'm freakingly f@$king depressed...sejak 2 menjak ni, my attention span becomes shorter & my full attention is only on miya. fullstop..

i dunno if i'm having post natal memory loss or i'm just losing IT!! keep on forgetting things, cant even remember MAJORly important things..dulu lupa to pack some of imporant clothes before going back to PIL place, then there are a few BLACKOUT of event that i cant even remember apa i dah buat. then this morning, at wisma putra, while me, papanye & miya waited for the endorsement of out Cert of Good Conduct..suddenly papanye tanye "where's our passport?"

dlm otak i yg kecik ni menjerit "F@*k! Dlm plastic makanan lunch smlm? F@*k!"

then i jawab to papanye with muka yg dah pucat, or green. or biru...." i think its in plastic sampah yug kita buang pg td".

then....papanye expressed his UPSETness (since we were in public, he was being discreet..but dr air muka dia i know he's frustrated with my SCREWUPness).

After we settled the stuff in putrajaya, we rushed home. i didnt wait for the car to park, i just left the car with papanye & miya. I ran to the lift, bang on the lift button, swearing for it to reach L2 fast, then another bang on the button 19, then another series of bang on the close button(macam la it helps for the lift to go up faster). Reached out floor, i ran straight to bilik sampah, peek into the bin our sampah is still around. Without thinking of the YUCKIEness, i just selup my hand in the bin & cari the passport. Bila i dah mula rasa nak muntah, i agree with my eyes that its not there.

Then i head to my unit, papanye dah masuk rumah. I washed my hands, then mula search the house at potential places. then finally jumpa in the bag that i put all my borang2 enrolment uni. I can only say "Alhamdulillah". then I can finally smile, tarik nafas lega... tetibe i rasa geli geleman satu badan, terus cuci tgh dgn sabun sekali lagi.

back on topic, why am i having this? Am i losing it or its the post-natal thingy?

So i surf the web, some said "In fact, recent data suggests that the memory loss experienced by pregnant and postpartum women is both real and measurable, despite an apparent lack of association with either anxiety or hormone levels"

then i read on

The Basics of Memory

Memory is the key to thinking and learning, and serves as the information database of the brain. Psychologists classify memory into the four “R’s” - recollection, recall, recognition, and relearning. While recall is the unaided remembrance of past events, recollection involves remembering through the use of hints or clues. Recognition involves the correct identification of previously encountered information. Relearning is the ability to assimilate new information based upon previously learned information.

Exactly how and where in the brain information is stored is still a mystery. Some scientists have found that stimulating specific areas of the brain brings certain memories to mind, leading to the belief that memories are stored in specific loci of the brain, while others believe the process is much more complicated, involving areas of the brain working together to conjure a memory. Another theory suggests that long and short-term memories are stored differently, and that failure to transfer information from short- to long-term memory results in its irretrievable loss. Still others believe that different types of memories, such as skills or those with emotional connotations are distributed among different areas of the brain. Whatever the mechanism, scientists agree that without memory, learning is impossible.

Why We Forget

After we encounter information, we quickly will forget a certain amount, then progress to a less rapid rate of decline. In the past, scientists have offered several possible explanations for this phenomenon. One theory without much proof to date holds that memories deteriorate in conjunction with associated neuronal organic processes. Other ideas postulated include the belief that memories become distorted over time, or that new information displaces old, or even that forgetting may be a defense mechanism of the brain to consciously or unconsciously repress information which is too painful or upsetting to handle.

What is Short-term Memory Loss?

If you are pregnant and approaching your third trimester, you may find yourself increasingly misplacing items such as keys or eyeglasses, forgetting appointments, or suddenly losing your train of thought in the midst of performing a task. Rest assured, this probably does not signal the onset of early Alzheimer’s disease, but may be a temporary condition known as short-term memory loss. Short-term memory, or working memory, as it is also known, is the process by which we store most of the daily, generally transitory information we need to get through our daily routines. This kind of information will most likely never make it’s way into our long-term memory, the process we reserve the more permanent information we encounter. For instance, as you make your breakfast, you may make mental note of the fact that you are almost out of eggs. This information would be stored in the short-term, rather than long-term memory. Long-term memory is reserved for more general information

Memory Decline Greatest in Third Trimester

Approximately half of all pregnant women report increases in forgetfulness during the latter part of pregnancy and in the postpartum period.

In a 1998 study published in the American Journal of Obstetrics and Gynecology, Keenan and associates monitored the memory and anxiety or depression level of a group of women throughout pregnancy and in the postpartum period. A similar group of nonpregnant women were likewise monitored for comparison. While the length of material influenced the amount recalled for both groups, pregnant women in the third trimester showed a significant decline in memory. No such decline was noted for nonpregnant women. While pregnant women reported greater sleep disturbance, increased levels of depression and anxiety, this study found no link between these symptoms and decline in memory.

Brain Overload and Memory Dysfunction

A 2-part study was conducted by Janes and associates reported in the American Journal of Psychosomatic Obstetrics found that while test and control groups did not differ on self-reported mood and anxiety levels, pregnant and postpartum women performed worse on tests of working memory. Although this study found that increases in sleep disruption reported by women in their third trimester corresponded more to self-reported memory levels than to actual performance on memory tests. The results suggest that the working memory of pregnant women may be affected by a higher than normal volume of information as their minds attempt to adapt to the anticipated life changes and increased responsibility of caring for an infant.

Relationship to Sleep Deprivation, Mood, and Hormone Levels

A 1999 study conducted by J. G. Buckwalter and associates examined the possible relationships between hormone levels and anxiety, memory, and mood in pregnant women, as reported in the journal, Psychoneuorendrocrinology. The mood, memory, and anxiety levels of pregnant and postpartum women, as well as non-pregnant women were evaluated at given intervals using both self-reporting surveys and a battery of detailed neuropsychological evaluations. At the same time, blood samples were drawn from the participants and levels of various steroid hormones were measured. Compared with performance after delivery, women performed more poorly on verbal memory tests during pregnancy, which were not associated mood levels. While levels of certain hormones affected both mood and anxiety levels both during pregnancy and in the postpartum period, no such association was found between any steroid hormone levels and effects on learning or memory.

Ways to Improve Memory – Both Now and Post-Pregnancy

Most women consider short-term memory loss one of the less unpleasant, if inconvenient and frustrating, symptoms of late pregnancy. Fortunately, symptoms will usually abate or disappear sometime after delivery and within the following year. In the meantime, women have found some relief through use of several techniques, which have been shown to successfully improve memory:

· Actively recall information while learning.

For example, you meet an important man named Cliff Brown, whose name you must remember for business purposes. Say the name aloud as you are shaking hands, as in, “Pleased to meet you, MR. BROWN.” After the man leaves, you repeat the name several times to yourself, either aloud or in your head.

· Periodically review learned information.

Referring to the example above, review the events of the day before retiring, once again bringing to mind the name of the individual, and again repeating the information to oneself several times. Think of this as reviewing notes before a test.

· Overkill

Learn the material nearly to the point of expertise. Anyone who has successfully studied for a test knows that true learning goes beyond rote memorization. Understanding a concept will go a long way towards triggering the memory for the entire material.

· Mnemonics

Try using the mental technique known as mnemonics, which uses word associations and the like to draw forth the desired memory. One of the most common examples is the acronym, as in NAFTA for the North American Free Trade Agreement. Another twist on this method involves the use of a mental image. For example, you might note that Mr. Brown has both brown eyes and brown hair at the time you meet. In this case, you might add “Mr. Brown Hair” to your repetitions to help brand his name on your psyche.

Improving your memory will have a positive effect on your mental health and well being, and may help to ease some of the worry of late pregnancy. But, as with any skill, active remembering requires consistency and effort, so don’t expect a huge improvement overnight. With practice and a little mental elbow grease, you may find yourself at the end of your pregnancy with sharper mental acuity than even your pre-pregnancy days.

I realized i do have lack of concentration & poor memories. Have to do something about this la..maybe start taking ginkgo biloba? Read more Quran? Play memory games? What do u guys think?

*sebab kan stress td, now my head hurt!! throbbing headache!!

Dec 10, 2008

Miya snack- biskut rubber

2cups of oat yg telah dikisar
pinch of salt
1tbspoon baking powder
1tbspoon vanila
3bijik pisang monte yg over ripe atau 6bijik pisang emas
3tablespoon of oil (suka suki nak guna oil ape/but dont use penut oil or corn oil for kids below 1yrs old)

cara buatnye:
1)mix dry with dry & wet with wet.
2) mix all the stuff sampai sebati. it will look like bancuhan cekodok pisang, but it wont stick much to the spatula (coz ade minyak tu)
3) in baking tray (lined with baking sheet or alum foil), spoon the bancuhan & drop dia memanjang on the tray. buat rectangular shape 1inci lebar & 2-3 inci panjang.
4)baked dlm oven 200darjah celcius for about 20mins.

the end product..mine cam cruchy kat luar & dlm cam kek pisang bantat.

cara serving..either let miya gonyeh it or i lenyek each biskut dlm air panas utk buat bubur.

*this recipe contains no: wheat, egg & nuts
should be ok utk budak less than 1 thn.

Dec 4, 2008

Part 4; Abortifacient

a cool posting by my dear friend liyana from


Using the birth control pill and the coil
What is the shar’i ruling on using the coil (IUD – intrauterine device) as a means of preventing pregnancy, knowing that this means does not prevent fertilization of the egg, but it prevents the embryo from attaching itself to the wall of the uterus? May Allaah reward you with good.
Praise be to Allaah.

Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
What the Muslims should do is to have as many children as they can, because this is the command issued by the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) when he said, “Marry the one who is loving and fertile, for I will be proud of your great numbers.”

Because increasing the number of children increases the size of the ummah, and being of great numbers is a source of pride, as Allaah said, reminding the Children of Israel of that (interpretation of the meaning):

“And We helped you with wealth and children and made you more numerous in man-power” [al-Israa’ 17:6]

And Shu’ayb said to his people:
“ ‘And remember when you were but few, and He multiplied you’”

[al-A’raaf 7:86 – interpretation of the meaning]
No one would deny that if the ummah is great in number this will lend it pride and strength. This is contrary to what is imagined by those who think evil thoughts, that the large numbers of the ummah is the cause of its poverty and hunger. If the ummah increases in number and relies on Allaah, and believes in His promise, in the aayah “And no moving (living) creature is there on earth but its provision is due from Allaah”

[Hood 11:6 – interpretation of the meaning], then Allaah will make things easy for them and will grant them sufficient means from His Bounty.

On this basis, the answer to the question is as follows:
A woman should not use birth control pills unless the following two conditions are met:

(1) She should have a reason for that such as being sick and unable to bear a pregnancy every year, or being physically weak, or having other reasons why getting pregnant every year would be harmful for her.

(2) Her husband should give his permission, because the husband has the right to have children. This must also be done in consultation with a doctor, to find out whether taking these pills will be harmful to her or not.

If these two conditions are met, then it is OK for her to use these pills, but that should not be on a permanent basis, i.e., she should not use the type of birth control pills that prevent pregnancy permanently, because this is preventing progeny.
(Fataawa al-Mar’ah al-Muslimah, 2/657, 658)

Concerning the harms caused by contraception, the Shaykh (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
Birth control pills: I have heard from a number of sources that doctors say they are harmful. Even if we do not know this from the doctors, we know it from ourselves, because preventing something natural that Allaah has created and decreed for the daughters of Adam is undoubtedly harmful.

Allaah is Wise, and He has only created this blood which flows at certain times for a reason. If we prevent it with these medicines, that is harmful without a doubt.

But I have heard that the matter is worse than we imagine, that they may be a means of damaging the womb, and a means of causing nervous disorders. This is something we must beware of.

Shaykh ‘Abd al-‘Azeez ibn Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked:
What is the ruling on removing the uterus in order to avoid having children for medical reasons which are either present, or may occur in the future and have been predicted by medical and scientific means?

He answered: if that is necessary, then it is OK, otherwise it should not be done, because the Lawgiver urges us to have children and promotes that in order to increase the size of the ummah. But if there is a necessary reason then it is OK, just as it is permissible to use means of contraception for a limited time for a legitimate shar’i reason. (9/434)

What is said concerning the birth control pill may also be said concerning the coil. It has been definitely proven by the doctors that this contraceptive method causes harm, especially when it is used continually. It is known that the woman who has a coil inserted has an increased flow of menstrual blood, and her period may come twice a month, which causes an iron deficiency in her body. Iron is one of the important minerals which the body needs.

Some women may become anaemic when they use the coil and it makes their periods longer, resulting in the woman losing a large amount of blood and thus a large amount of the iron stored in the body. It has also been proven that many women suffer infections of the uterus as a result of using the coil. Despite all this, a woman may become pregnant with the coil in place, as has happened to a number of women. We ask Allaah to keep us safe and sound.
And Allaah knows best.

Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid:
Ongoing contraception is haraam except in cases of necessity
I suffer from a severe sickness during pregnancy, that lasts almost until the moment of birth, especially in the first three months. It was so bad that I spent almost two months in hospital.

During this time, I stopped eating and drinking completely, and I disliked everything. I was fed by means of injections in the hospital. In this case is it permissible for me to avoid getting pregnant and giving birth altogether, or is that not permitted?.
Praise be to Allaah.

Islam encourages people to get married and have children so as to increase the numbers of the Muslim ummah and to make the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) proud before all other nations on the Day of Resurrection, and in accordance with human nature (fitrah). The Prophets themselves (blessings and peace of Allaah be upon them) asked Allaah to bless them with righteous offspring. Allaah tells us that Ibraaheem (peace be upon him) said:
“My Lord! Grant me (offspring) from the righteous”
[al-Saaffaat 37:100].

And Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And (remember) Zakariyya (Zachariah), when he cried to his Lord: ‘O My Lord! Leave me not single (childless), though You are the Best of the inheritors’”
[al-Anbiya’ 21:89.]

Allaah tells us of many of the du’aa’s of the righteous, such as the verse in which He says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And those who say: “Our Lord! Bestow on us from our wives and our offspring the comfort of our eyes, and make us leaders of the Muttaqoon (the pious)”
[al-Furqaan 25:74].

People will remain like that so long as their nature (fitrah) remains sound.

In the answer to question no. 21169 we stated that ongoing contraception is haraam.
But an exception is made to that in cases of necessity – as is the shar’i principle with regard to all haraam things, as it allows them in cases of necessity. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“He has explained to you in detail what is forbidden to you, except under compulsion of necessity”
[al-An’aam 6:119].

So if a woman is weak or sick and will be harmed by pregnancy or there is fear for her life because of that, then it is permissible for her to use that which will prevent pregnancy.

In research prepared by the Standing Committee for Academic research and Issuing Fatwas it says:
… Based on that, limiting the number of offspring is haraam in general, and contraception may be haraam except in rare individual cases that are not general in application, such as if the pregnant woman will have to give birth in a manner other than that which is usual, and she will have to have surgery to bring the child forth;

or if the woman’s health or life will be at risk due to pregnancy. In such cases contraception is permitted as anexception because of the likelihood of harm, so as to preserve her life, because Islam seeks to bring benefits and ward off harms, and to advance the greater of benefits and reduce the harm in the case of a conflict. End quote.
Majallat al-Buhooth al-Islamiyyah (5/127).

Shaykh Ibn Baaz was asked about a woman who had given birth to ten children, and now pregnancy would cause her harm, and she wanted to have an operation to have her tubes tied.

He replied:
There is nothing wrong with her having the surgery mentioned, if doctors have determined that giving birth will harm her, and if her husband allows that. End quote.
Fataawa al-Mar’ah al-Muslimah (5/978).

Shaykh Ibn Jibreen said:
It is not permissible to have surgery to end or prevent pregnancy except in cases of necessity, when trustworthy doctors have established that giving birth will harm her or make her sickness worse, or there is the fear that pregnancy and childbirth will likely lead to her death. But it is essential that the husband give his approval to the ending or prevention of pregnancy.

Then when the excuse ends the woman should go back to normal. End quote.

Fataawa al-Mar’ah al-Muslimah (2/977).
Based on this, if what happened to you was caused by pregnancy, then it is a passing thing that was caused by sickness or weakness which it is hoped will pass. In that case you can use contraceptives on a temporary basis, until Allaah heals you.

But if it is an ongoing problem for which there is no hope of an end, then there is nothing wrong – in sha Allaah – with you using contraception on an ongoing basis.
And Allaah knows best.

Ruling on aborting a deformed fetus
If a fetus is found to have some defects (at about 4.5 months of pregrancy), one which includes anencephaly:no brain, and the doctors strongly suggest an abortion since the longest an anencephalic born baby survived was 21 days and since most of such pregnancies end up in miscarriages at a later and riskier stage of pregnancies, or still born baby.

what is a muslim couple to do? especially since consulting two knowledgeable islamic scholars each came up with a different solution ie one suggesting abortion the other one suggesting continuing with pregnancy. The couple had to make a decision the soonest possible. what do the laws of islam say?

Praise be to Allaah.

If the fetus has reached the age of four months, then the soul has already been breathed into it, so deliberately aborting it would be regarded as killing a soul - which is a very grave major sin..

The doctors' opinion that it is malformed is no excuse at all. If it is miscarried or stillborn, or it is born alive and dies shortly thereafter, the parents will be rewarded for bearing the calamity of their loss, and if it lives and has some kind of disability, they will be rewarded for their patience in taking care of it.

Everything that happens to the believer is good for him, but wilfully destroying a soul is nothing but evil and sin. We must also take into consideration the errors that may occur in doctors' reports, and that fact that the condition of the fetus may change and improve.
And Allaah knows best.

Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid:
Abortion after the soul has been breathed into the foetus
What is the ruling on abortion after the fifth month of pregnancy?

Praise be to Allaah.
The fuqaha’ of the Sunni Islamic madhhabs are agreed that it is haraam to kill the foetus after the soul has been breathed into it, i.e., after 120 days have passed since conception. It is not permissible to kill it under any circumstances except when continuing the pregnancy would lead to the mother’s death.

The differences among the fuqaha’ have to do with abortion in the period before the soul is breathed into the foetus. After the soul is breathed into it, the fuqaha’ are agreed that the foetus has become a human being and a soul which has dignity and is to be respected. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And indeed We have honoured the Children of Adam…”[al-Israa’ 17:70]

And He says (interpretation of the meaning):
“… if anyone killed a person not in retaliation of murder, or (and) to spread mischief in the land — it would be as if he killed all mankind, and if anyone saved a life, it would be as if he saved the life of all mankind…”[al-Maa'idah 5:32]

The Maaliki faqeeh Ibn Jizzi narrated in al-Qawaaneen al-Fiqhiyyah that there was scholarly consensus that it is haraam to have an abortion after the soul has been breathed into the foetus. He said: “When the womb has accepted the sperm it is haraam to interfere with it. It is worse (to do so) when it has been formed; and it is worse when the soul has been breathed into it, for that is considered to be the killing of a soul, according to scholarly consensus.” (al-Qawaaneen al-Fiqhiyyah, 141)

Similarly it says in Nihaayat al-Muhtaaj: “The prohibition becomes stronger the closer the time is for the soul to be breathed into the foetus, because it is a crime. Then if it has taken on a human form and the midwives can palpate it, it must be protected fully.” (Nihaayat al-Muhtaaj, 8/442)

The author of al-Bahr al-Raa’iq stated that when some of the features of the foetus become distinct, it is to be considered as a child. The author of al-Binaayah said: “It is not permitted to interfere with the foetus once its features have become distinct. If it can be distinguished from the ‘alaqah (clot) and the blood, it should be considered as having become a soul, and there is no doubt that the sanctity of the soul is protected by scholarly consensus and by the texts of the Qur’aan.”

Thus it is clear to us that abortion after the soul has been breathed into the foetus is a crime which it is not permitted to commit, except in cases of extreme and certain necessity, not where necessity is merely imagined, i.e., where the necessity is proven.

This means cases where preserving the foetus would put the mother’s life in danger, noting that with the advances in modern medicine and the scientific possibilities available nowadays, abortions performed to save the mother’s life have become very rare.

Ahkaam al-Janeen fi’l-Fiqh al-Islami by ‘Umar ibn Muhammad ibn Ibraaheem ‘Aamir


so what do i think of the article? clearly explain what islam wants from a woman..islam wants a mother to be wise. islam wants her to think properply for herself & with the permission of the husband, try create a wonderful islamic family that doesn't do unjust to herself or to any of the family member..even to the unborn child? true? i believe, a true muslim wife would know what the right decision to make..

Tofu fav miya kat sushi resto

this is our usual scene kat sushi...usually every friday we will go to bangsar & have sushi dinner there. a great family dinner of 3. papa & mama miya will eat memacam jenis sushi. miya lak makan tofu yg dlm gambo tu..its tofu goreng salut tepung, covered with kicap manis. so i bg yg tengah tofu aje sebab dia takde kena tepung or kicap yg byk..miya likey..yum yum!!

Miya's travelling food

when were in the go, i will give miya oat-home made cereal oats. how to make it:

1) kisar oats dlm dry mil until halus.
2) by using pengayak tepung, tapis the oats yg dah kisar tu.
3) serbuk halus hasil lapisan tu should be stored in tupperware or airtight container. (serbuk yg kasar tu mommies can use to make oats theething posting i'll post the recipe to that).

so how to prep this oat menu. some people prefer to cook it..but some said using boiling water dah memadai. as for me, kalau travelling on the go, i just use boiling water. kalau at home i masak la on dapur or in microwave for 2mins.

ni cara nak buat bila kita tgh travel.

how to fruity oat porridge(sesuai for 4-6mo):

1) tuang boiling water just enough to cover serbuk oats. leave it seminit utk kembang.
2) lenyek pisang/ apple chuncks/ pear chunks & add to the oats mixture.
3) tuang skit EBM/juice kalau rasa nak extra.

how to make savory porridge (sesuai for kids yg sudah intro animal protein & have no allergies to it):

1) mix 3 sudu oat dgn 1 sudu sebuk ikan bilis.
2) curah boiling water just enough to cover the serbuk.
3) leave it for 2-3mins..then kacau rata. bila dia sah suam2 skit, br serve to anak.

Dec 3, 2008

Part 3; Abortifacient

i got some input from moms in

kak shiha wrote (she a medical person & also a penal in an islamic online forum on birth control):


Sedikit petikan mengenai hukum menggugurkan anak:

Hukum Aborsi atau al-Ijhad yakni menggugurkan janin sebelum sempurna tempoh mengandung.

Fatwa al-Qardhawi, hukum asalnya haram dan hukum haram itu bertambah serius seiring dgn peningkatan umur janin, dan haram secara ijma' bila janin sudah ditiup ruh. Umur ditiup ruh menurut jumhur ialah 120 hari, manakala kajian al-Qardhawiialah 40 hari. Fatawa Mu'asirat, jidl 2.

Fatwa Syaikh AliTantawi, KSA:
Hukum asal aborsi ialah haram kerana persyari'atan Nikah kerana mendapat keturunan, sedangkan aborsi telah merusakkan kelangsungan keturunan manusia.
Sepermatazoa dalam sperma lelaki bukan lagi manusia, tapi bila ia bercantum dgn ovum perempuan, maka terjadilah manusia dan haramlah mematikan manusia. begitu juga kalau diqiaskan dengan buah zaitun, jika orang mencuri atau merosakkan buah zaitun, masih boleh dima'afkan, tapi jika merosakkan pokok zaitun, maka sudah tentu engkau akan bertindak.
[Syaikh alitantawi, majmu' fatawa, KSA, 1990)

Jadi jelas di sini, ketika proses persenyawaan/fertilization, mahupun implantation (iaitu selepas 8-10 hari) ianya masih terlalu awal dari tempoh 120 hari (ataupun 40 hari menurut Dr. Qardhawy) yang dikatakan bila janin sudah ditiup roh.

Maka penggunaan pil perancang yang biasa kita gunakan (Noriday, Diana, Mercilon, Implanon etc) TIDAK TERMASUK DI DALAM KES MENGGUGURKAN ANAK. Sekian.


sitilina wrote (a mom that i prefer to ask opinion on when it comes to religious matter)"

1. menurut Syafie, hukum asal saja2 merancang keluarga haram kecuali atas sebab2 kesihatan, kewangan, etc.

2. IMHO, performing abortion dgn 'abortifacient' is 2 different things. janin, kalo ikut definisi kamus dewan ialah Mudgah, yang mana dia telah menjadi sifat manusia. & sel ovum+sperma belum ada sifat manusia lagi.

3. menurut Dr. Abdurrahman Al Baghdadi bahwa 'abortion' dapat dilakukan sebelum ruh ditiupkan & dalam tempoh 40 hari kerana masa tu belum terjadi bentuk manusia lagi, hanya sel2 saja.

4. menurut al-Ghazali, sekiranya berlaku persenyawaan, 'membuang'nya adalah haram kerana menurut beliau ia dikira dah memulakan kehidupan sebagai manusia.

5. menurut fuqoha', menggugurkan selepas 4 bulan adalah haram kerana dia dah mempunyai roh dan sudah hidup sebagai manusia di dalam rahim.

6. menurut hadis dari Muslim, janin 4 bulan ialah bermula hak2nya sebagai manusia yakni hak utk hidup dan sebagainya.

pendapat saya:-

1. ovum+sperm yg bersenyawa hanya akan dapat meneruskan hidup jika dapat menempel di dindign rahim. jadi bila kita tidak sediakan tempat tempelan, makan dia tidak bole hidup & dari awal lagi syarat penghidupannya dah dicegah. melainkan dia sudah menempel & kita pisahkan dia dengan tempat kehidupan dia tu.

samalah seperti kalau merancang secara pakai kondom/'buang luar', kalau dikira, hak sperm tu adalah utk disenyawa tapi tak ke kita dah deny-kan haknye?

2. bila dah setel persenyawaan & penempelan, maka dia sudah dikira memulakan kehidupan sebagai manusia, & haram utk saja2 digugurkan melainkan atas sebab2 tertentu.

& pengguguran janin atas sebab kesihatan pun ada kategori2-nya, tak main pukul rata aje semua. contohnya, janin yg cacat, harus utk digugurkan di bawah 4 bulan tp di atas 4 bulan dah haram.

janin yg cacat yg bole membawa kematian selepas dia dilahirkan pun ada byk pendapat ulama. ada yg mengharuskan sebelum 4 bulan & haram selepas 4 bulan dan ada yg haruskan bila2 masa saja.

janin yg membahayakan nyawa ibu harus digugurkan bila2 masa saja.

summarynya, haram menggugurkan janin kecuali yang diharuskan utk digugurkan sebelum 4 bulan:

1. bayi yang cacat anggota.
2. bayi hasil rogol (bukan zina).
3. bayi mengidap penyakit serius yg tak bole diubati. yang sakit tp bole diubati haram digugurkan.

pendapat yg kata bahwa bertemunya ovum & sperma, maka bermula kehidupan adalah pendapat yg lemah... sebabnye kehidupan tu dah bermula pun sejak dia jadi ovum & sperm. kaedah2 lain pun dikira 'menghalang' kehidupan juga, sedangkan kaedah seperti 'buang luar' adalah di-approve oleh Rasulullah dan diamalkan sejak zaman dulukala Islam lagi.

ehe. saya bukan orang pakar sebenarnya. utk lanjut bole tanya pada mereka yg pakar dalam hal ni. & harus ingat juga, ustaz-ustazah ni pendapat mereka berbeza2 jadi pandai2lah menilai & berlapang dadalah dengan semua pendapat mereka.



earlier i write in

After tgk video tu, i did some research on birth control methods & kisah2 abortifacient. yang now byk buat gerakan utk menyedarkan masyarakat pasal isu ni are mostly christian church. some of them panggil kempen ni "anti-life". (y i pursue studying this matter? i feel weird yg christian church is making fuss about this & kita yg islam tak aware of it pun)

generally dr pembacaan i, i understood ade 2 type of birth control Contraceptives & Abortifacients.

Contraceptives include the so-called barrier methods: the condom, diaphragm, cervical cap, and anti-sperm methods such as the sponge, jellies, foams and creams. Ni semua method yg elakkan dr telur kita di senyawakan.

Abortifacients work after fertilization (conception) by killing the newly conceived human. These include oral contraceptives (the "Pill"), IUD, Norplant, Depo-Provera, Emergency Contraception (the "Morning-After Pill"), and anti-fertility vaccines.

(do correct me if i'm wrong kak shiha. mostly i read from encyclopedia of birth control, wikipedia abortion, wiki birth control, how birth control works)

i wanted to meet my gyne to ask further on this, tp i mls lak nak set appointment just to ask these question..kena lak charge rm70 tak pasal pasal. any moms here have in depth understanding on the actual chemistry of these birth control method, do share with us.

anyway, i rasa its ok to family plan dgn sebab kita tak nak menzalimi diri & anak kan?

Dec 2, 2008

Part 2; Abortfi

this is a sambungan from the video i uploaded earlier on contraceptive pills yg sama cam gugurkan kandungan..i berpikir smlm & teringat ayat al-quran pasal kejadian summary i cap:

"Dan sesungguhnya Kami telah menciptakan manusia dari suatu saripati atau berasal dari tanah. Kemudian Kami jadikan saripati itu air mani yang disimpan dalam tempat yang kukuh (rahim). Kemudian air mani itu Kami jadikan segumpal darah, lalu segumpal darah itu kami jadikan segumpal daging dan segumpal daging itu Kami jadikan tulang belulang, lalu tulang belulang itu Kami bungkus dengan daging. Kemudian kami jadikan dia makhluk yang berbentuk lain. Maka Maha suci Alla. Pencipta Yang Paling Baik"

(Al-Mukminun : 12 - 14)

Ayat di atas merupakan proses kejadian manusia yang perlu difahami oleh semua manusia. Aku pernah belajar benda nih masa di college dulu. Itulah kali pertama aku betul-betul tahu dan mengaggumi proses kejadian manusia menurut Al Quran. Sebelum tuh aku tak pernah kisah pun pasal kejadian manusia nih baik dari segi Islam atau dari segi science. Lepas class tuh aku start jadi sedikit kagum dan sampai sekarang aku still ingat (walaupun banyak yang dah lupa jugak) proses dan peringkat kejadian manusia tuh di alam rahim.

Menurut Al Quran prosese kejadian manusia ada 6 peringkat
1. Nutfah
2. 'Alaqah
3. Mudghah
4. izam
5. Lahm
6. Ruh

1. Masa peringkat Nutfah nih adalah peringkat dimana percantuman telur dengan sperm atau percampuran air mani.

2. 'Alaqah - peringkat dimana air mani tadi telah bertukar menjadi segumpal darah.

3. Mudghah - peringkat dimana Allah telah menjadikan darah beku tadi kepada segumpal daging

4. Izham - peringkat Allah jadikan tulang temulang

5. Lahm - kemudian Allah balutkan tulang itu dengan daging

6. Ruh - akhir sekali disinilah Allah akan tiupkan ruh dimana semua perjanjian dan Qada dan Qadar seseorang itu termaktub. Ada pendapat mengatakan ruh akan ditiup pada masa umur baby 120 hari di dalam perut atau bersamaan 4 bulan. dan pada masa ini baby tadi sudah boleh digelar sebagai manusia kerana sifatnya juga telah cukup.

so persoalannye dia sini..

telur yg dah senyawa tu tokleh lekat kat dinding uterus sebab mukus terlalu pekat menyelaputi dinding uterus(effect dr pil perancang). jd telur yg telah senyawa itu akan gugur. adakah ade ruh dlm telur tu? kalau ade ruh, meaning act itu sama cam mengugurkan anak kan? so kalau ikut kan ayat al-quran ni..ruh di tiup last skali & ade pendapat kata ruh tu hanya ditiup dlm 4bulan after conceive..

so what do mommies think of this? also wondering if any moms know pasal hukum mengugurkan kandungan...

so kalau nyawa ditiupkan pada hari ke 120, is it ok to perform abortion before that day?


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