Mommies Discussion On Discipline

I'm now watching Dr Phil. They are having this mommies debating about spanking & yelling at kids when they really misbehave in public. It is a very subjective matter kan? So just wondering what do u ladies think about this:

1) Its ok to yell to your kids in public when they misbehave?

2) Its ok to spank/cubit/debik to your kids in public when they misbehave?

Don't you think if you yell, the kid will yell back at you louder... How embarrassing is that?

As for spanking, here in Australia ada Anti-smacking law. I've never really seen it in action, except this one case where the mom kena lockup sebab tampar anak dara dia age 16 yg kantoi mabuk). So, I have always been very careful; takut-takut ter-debik or cubit Miya & someone report me to the police. Tapi kan.... semalam kat hospital (during my routine preggy check-up), ada budak baya Miya kena debik dgn mak dia sebab sibuk main dgn water cooler. The kid mmg annoying to us around coz mengacau org nak minum & then bikin sepah-sepah. Eventhough ramai buat muka terkejut bila budak tu kena debik, I know it is not just me who have this feeling dalam hati kata "haa padan muka. tak dengar kata lagi". Miya lak bz bodi dok kata kat I "haa haa....mama dia mayah". So I reply "Mmglah mama dia marah, dia tak nak dengar kata. Miya nak kena marah depan orang camtu?" Miya dgn mula panic kata "Noi". Syukur anak aku well behaved in public.

Then later the midwife and the pathology nurses pun puji Miya kata she is well behaved. I yg tersipu-sipu ni pun kata "She might be good in public, wish you can see how she is at home". To my surprise, the pathology nurse said something that really make sense to me. She said "Oh, that is what you would want, love. You can't have everything and do be thankful with what you have". Betul gak kan? Kalau kat rumah tu, kita bleh lg control keadaan. Kalu in public ni mmg payah aaa..

Anyway, back on topic. From those 2 points in question, Dr Phil tanya if mommies sedar yg anak-anak zaman sekarang ni banyak rude. Studies show that 98% of kids nowadays are rude. They are rude and that is why they misbehave (especially in public with an audience). Dr Phil believed that anak-anak ni rude sebab kita parents ni yg allow them to grow rude. Starts from kita melayan tantrum toddler until lah dia masuk the teenage rebellious stage. Do we let them get away with little misbehave and later it grow berulat? Or kita manjakan or spoil-kan anak?What do you think of this fact?

What would you do supaya anak kita ni tak terjebak dlm percentage 98% ini?