1) Its ok to yell to your kids in public when they misbehave?
2) Its ok to spank/cubit/debik to your kids in public when they misbehave?
Don't you think if you yell, the kid will yell back at you louder... How embarrassing is that?
As for spanking, here in Australia ada Anti-smacking law. I've never really seen it in action, except this one case where the mom kena lockup sebab tampar anak dara dia age 16 yg kantoi mabuk). So, I have always been very careful; takut-takut ter-debik or cubit Miya & someone report me to the police. Tapi kan.... semalam kat hospital (during my routine preggy check-up), ada budak baya Miya kena debik dgn mak dia sebab sibuk main dgn water cooler. The kid mmg annoying to us around coz mengacau org nak minum & then bikin sepah-sepah. Eventhough ramai buat muka terkejut bila budak tu kena debik, I know it is not just me who have this feeling dalam hati kata "haa padan muka. tak dengar kata lagi". Miya lak bz bodi dok kata kat I "haa haa....mama dia mayah". So I reply "Mmglah mama dia marah, dia tak nak dengar kata. Miya nak kena marah depan orang camtu?" Miya dgn mula panic kata "Noi". Syukur anak aku well behaved in public.
Then later the midwife and the pathology nurses pun puji Miya kata she is well behaved. I yg tersipu-sipu ni pun kata "She might be good in public, wish you can see how she is at home". To my surprise, the pathology nurse said something that really make sense to me. She said "Oh, that is what you would want, love. You can't have everything and do be thankful with what you have". Betul gak kan? Kalau kat rumah tu, kita bleh lg control keadaan. Kalu in public ni mmg payah aaa..
Anyway, back on topic. From those 2 points in question, Dr Phil tanya if mommies sedar yg anak-anak zaman sekarang ni banyak rude. Studies show that 98% of kids nowadays are rude. They are rude and that is why they misbehave (especially in public with an audience). Dr Phil believed that anak-anak ni rude sebab kita parents ni yg allow them to grow rude. Starts from kita melayan tantrum toddler until lah dia masuk the teenage rebellious stage. Do we let them get away with little misbehave and later it grow berulat? Or kita manjakan or spoil-kan anak?What do you think of this fact?
What would you do supaya anak kita ni tak terjebak dlm percentage 98% ini?
5 comments:
hurmmm..i pun still wondring ok ke no.2..
u tau tak skang ni..at the ge of 1yr6m..bila i babab mia kat tgn sbb dia ggit kuku,dia dah start nak balas balik..so i dah stop babab2 dah..takut dia akan terikut2..
payah juga kan..ni my son tak tunjuk lagi dia punya tantrum coz he's not even 1. But kitorg dh mula raise our voice if he wants to play with something yg bahaya..
Malam tadi Aqilah meragam waktu kami nak pergi bawak my in-laws makan nasi arab. Meragam dia mula bila dia mintak nak makan vitamin sedangkan vitamin tu kat rumah, so meragam dia berangkai-rangkai, lepas satu-satu. I sabar aje, cuba pujuk dia baik-baik tapi tak jalan. Tapi my hubby yang tak tahan sabar, marah Aqilah, terus dia nangis dan lepas tu ok pulak blh mkn dgn baik. Tapi for my it's better for us untuk sabar sebab anak meragam tu ujian untuk kita, nak uji tahap kesabaran kita dalam mendidik anak-anak. Mengikut Dato' Siddiq Baba juga (selalu i dgr ceramah beliau mengenai Keluarga Sakinah di IKIM), beliau tidak setuju cara memarah dan mengherdik, memukul anak semasa proses mendidik anak-anak. So, i seboleh mungkin akan bersabar dan cuba pujuk anak bila mereka meragam.
takot kalau di pikir-pikirkan. kita rasa kita dah didik anak kita elok2, tapi, mana tau, maybe dia dengan babysitter ke, atau nursery ke, school ke, yang merubah keadaan dia pulak.
dr phill tak bgtau macamana untuk jadi yang 2% lagi tu?
utk soalan u, both tak ok. i pilih advice the kiddo baik2. kalau tak makan jugak, terus balik rumah, then baru punish.
hmmm yup my 22month old ni pun dah start tantrums etc...so first we talk sense into him first...usually he will listen. If tak jalan, then we make ourselves sound angry and more stern...last, spank him la, but usually that is at home....
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