Mar 4, 2010

More tips on TODDLER TANTRUM!!


Yes mommies we keep on telling ourselves "It's just a phase", but can it really help from us to naik hangin?

These few tips from Dr Karp does make sense, doesn't it? He revealed that toddlers often act like uncivilized littlecavemen,with a primitive way of thinking and communicating that is all their own. I couldn't agree more because like cavemen that we usually see in movies and documentaries, they have huge communication frustation problem..Hahahahha.. But our littlecavemen most of the time just throw tantrum to get our attention and to follow suit of what they want, kan?

Anyway Dr Karp's book The Happiest Baby on the Block offers very practical advice to parents for dealing with the toddler years of 1 to 4 years old. The basic gist of the book is that when a child starts to throw a tantrum the parent should acknowledge what is upsetting by repeating back it back (“the fast food rule”) and to use a simple vocabulary of words called “toddlerese” that toddlers will understand most when they are upset. Don't use long sentence or too much explanation. Cakap to the budak macam kita ni budak jugak and a firm "No" works wonder.

One thing I found useful when Miya throw a tantrum, I look at her and when I can see that she is looking at me (thinking that she might have gotten my attention), I turn and ignore her. Buat bodo aje....Then I realize she will hush, come to me and give me a hug. I think she is trying to say sorry, pujuk me to get her way and at the same time comfort herself. Alhamdulillah, it helps to cut short the tantrum session..Lega...............


3 comments:

Lady Qay said...

owh..zaffran blum smpi tahap itu..dia akan nangis nangis n trus nangis even kalo i ignore...huhu..so hadto try to find out apa dia nak..sumtimes bkn nak apa..just dahaga nak drink aja...but me being the nonsenstive mum somtimes, tak dpt tgkp apa dia nak..huhuhu

glam.mama said...

i love dr.karp's books! very useful and effective tips in his books :D

Confession of a Coffeeholic Mama-Miya said...

qay--> lain budak lain cara..nnt kena la cari trick yg work kan?

glam.mama--> yup i love the way he deal with kids..bridge the gap easier kan?

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