Jan 4, 2010

A Child's Rights? (Part 1)


Most of us at most time want to know if our young ones are "normal" and meeting their developmental milestones. We try to give them a quality early education program hoping that they will develop those skills and attributes.

We know that we need to provide these because these are our children's rights. We brought them into this world and so we are responsible to make sure they are of privilege to their rights. But not many parents these days fully realize this relationship responsibility.

One of the most important rights to be fulfilled is the proper Islamic education and moral training of children. Have we "tarbiyyah" our children in accordance to their rights?

The rights that parents have over children and the rights that children have over parents have been discarded over time......except in families that practice strict Islamic conduct.

I am ashamed to admit that I have been selective in the application of Islamic conduct in my daily practise...However I am proud to admit that I am trying to provide a better Aadaabul Islam to my child.

Tarbiyyah is about looking after, to nurture, to nourish, to help grow and flourish.

With Doa filling my heart and soul, I wish to tarbiyyah my offspring to reach a full Iman and Taqwa. I believe that if a child have fulfilled these, the worldly matters and rights will be much easier to achieve.

I want my child:

To learn to be Sabar, not Hasty.
To know Redha, not Frustration.
To give Thanks, not Wanting.
To understand, not Confuse & Retaliation.
To be gentle, not tantrum.
To do things as part of Ibadah, not just a duty.

I have many more wish and The One alone understand this mother's heart.

Do any other mommies out there feel me?

-To be continued: I have many more to write about this.

6 comments:

Lady Qay said...

me tooo..but sumtimes I feel I dont know where to start..what to do..sumtimes I feel what Im doing is not enough...

What I always do, is try to look back at what my parents did for us...and add up what we can..but I cant remember the time when I was small, so I look into what my parents did for my sibs...hehehe

mirah said...

Ya saya memahaminya. Memang bukanmudah nak mendidik anak menjadi anak yang baik dan solehah serta taat pd agama namun selagi tak berusaha, selagi tu tak tahu kan. Kita contoh terbaik pada anak-anak.

Ok moga kita sama-sama berjaya dalam mentarbiyyah anak-anak menjadi insan kamil ya.

Drama Mama said...

i feel you! totally! i hope mampu didik anak jadi insan yang berguna

Tolerance said...

According to islamic texts also it is duty of parents to teach the children, not of the clergy..legally clergy are only Wakeel or Wasiyy of the Wali or guardian (Ibnu Hajar in Tahrir)..

Then in teaching, more than advising and sermonizing to show them the good habits by living up ourselves is the best and mostly needed. Our children watch and imitate how we do things, speak, behave, respond and all. If we avoid abusive language and respect others in words and deeds our children will imitate it. If we watch full time TV and ask our Kids to learn or be serios it wont work. if we respect our parents and elders, our kids learn how to behave with you and others
May Allah help us to be good parants.
Zubair Hudawi, New Delhi..
www.zubyjnu.blogspot.com

Jiji said...

I totaly feel you bebeh!

Just imagine, punya laa banyak flash card kida dok flash depan anak kita, berapanya yang ada nama ALLAH?

Mila_ibu najihah said...

Betul la mama miya, I also hope the same thing, Moga doa kita supaya Allah jadikan anak kita anak yang soleh dan solehah dimakbulkan.

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