Feb 27, 2009

Are we just over worried mom?

Yesterday i wasted a cool show in ABC 1 "best way bring up your baby". then it got me thinking on the parenting methods being used in the 50's, 60's & 70's, with each having wide gap between em. Also at that time, there was no internet for moms to be checking up on the facts on parenting tips. They just follow whatever other people are doing.

Seriously i pretty much disagree with 50's method (Dr Spork)coz they agree that smoking is good, menjemur anak selama 4jam is good, formula milk is better than breastmilk (your must sumbat your baby as much formula as you can and gap between each feed is 4hours only, jgn gatal2 bagi before 4hours up. so lantak aa anak ko lapo) & it is not right to cuddle your child (only to touch your baby during feeding & change).

I really like the 70's method (Dr Truby King), the Continuum Concept. Its pretty much on what I'm doing now, where a child should have excess to breast at anytime, the mom babywear, co-sleep & a child could never have enough of lovin'! I feel by this way, parents & child bond faster, the baby is healthier & happier, and its kinda hippy..huhuhuhuh...

While i was researching on these method, i stumble upon this funny article. it goes:

"To All The Kids Who Survived The 1930's 40's, 50's, 60's and 70's !!

First, we survived being born to mothers who smoked and/or drank while they carried us.

They took aspirin, ate blue cheese dressing and didn't get tested for diabetes.

Then after that trauma, our baby cribs were covered with bright colored lead-based paints.

We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, doors or cabinets and when we rode our bikes, we had no helmets, not to mention, the risks we took hitchhiking.

As children, we would ride in cars with no seat belts or air bags.

Riding in the back of a pick up on a warm day was always a special treat.

We drank water from the garden hose and not from a bottle.

We shared one soft drink with four friends, from one bottle and NO ONE actually died from this.

We ate cupcakes, bread and butter and drank soda pop with sugar in it, but we weren't overweight because we were always outside playing.

We would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were back when the streetlights came on.

No one was able to reach us all day. And we were O.K.

We would spend hours building our go-carts out of scraps and then ride down the hill, only to find out we forgot the brakes. After running into the bushes a few times, we learned to solve the problem.

We did not have Playstations, Nintendo's, X-boxes, no video games at all, no 99 channels on cable, no video tape movies, no surround sound, no cell phones, no personal computers, no Internet or Internet chat rooms...we had friends and we went outside and found them!

We fell out of trees, got cut, broke bones and teeth and there were no lawsuits from these accidents.

We made up games with sticks and tennis balls and ate worms and although we were told it would happen, we did not put out very many eyes, nor did the worms live in us forever.

We rode bikes or walked to a friend's house and knocked on the door or rang the bell, or just walked in and talked to them!

Little League had tryouts and not everyone made the team. Those who didn't had to learn to deal with disappointment. Imagine that!!

The idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke the law was unheard of. They actually sided with the law!

This generation has produced some of the best risk-takers, problem solvers and inventors ever!

The past 50 years have been an explosion of innovation and new ideas.

We had freedom, failure, success and responsibility, and we learned how to deal with it all!

And you are one of them! Congratulations!

Received from Frank Smith, February 16, 2005"

There is some truth there kan? In any era pun, in whatsoever parenting method applied pun, in the end the baby grew up to be a person jugak. Not like the kid will turn up to be an alien.


Mrs NoeL KHairuLniZa said...

mmg ada yg betul jg, tp manusia kan semakin maju, blh kaji itu ini, semakin mendalami ilmu2.. tak salah la kita parents ni buat yg terbaik utk anak2...

elysuhaili said...

know wat!!! i was vomitting and pening2 as my stomach full of angin patu asik xlarat and demam for few days.. patu bleh continue same symptom after a week sampai doc suspected me pegnen omg xdek xdek!!! patu papi suh sgt2 check and claim 'i xnak la if u pegnen tapi xtau then u mkn ape aje.. sumbat ubat ape aje..' ooo sungguh la melancholic. i'm pretty sure that me not pegnen tapi one day we at tesco for groceries suddenly i bisik to papi 'eeee i geram.. i xtahan bau ayam..' terus2 papi bought the pegnenci test .. alhamdulillah check negatip.. xmo check lagik coz i kan denial.. cam nk buat party aje sbb tak pegnen kahkahkahkah..

setuju 100% method hippy u too coz i cant bear la jauh2 dari papi ngan sami hahahhaha

herni said...

semua ibu bapa nk yg terbaik utk anak2...cuma cara masing2 yg membezakan... =)

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